“He’s never said ‘I love you’ to me before but he sends me GHs 3000 every month, for 9 months now, to take care of myself. I have a special account for that bonus money, and I keep it hidden from all my transactions, so my husband accidentally, does not see it. I have not told him I love him yet but I do. I love my husband, but this other guy’s great sex and attention and respect for me is clouding my judgement and feelings.” – Confused A
I think I have tried when comes to my husband. Before meeting him, I used to have a satisfying round of sex. I felt more desire for my exes, which in a way translated to me desiring myself. I found intimacy and affection in my past relationships. I couldn’t marry them because one traveled out of Ghana, and I couldn’t continue being in a long distance. The other relationship didn’t work out due to tribal issues. I love my husband but I do not have any sense of happiness. He cums under 7 minutes, and it ain’t cool. I do not want to get laid that lazily. I have been used to 20 to 30 minutes of class banging. And when I am being hammered on a longer duration, I get excited. I orgasm. Dave, I wasn’t used to many sexual partners but the two before my husband were of quality and stamina.
Since we married, I have been pretending as a slight to his self-esteem. He’s a good man that’s why I do not want to wound his ego. So I fake climax so he would not feel at loss. I have tried many indirect ways to get him to see how much I love to be f**ked but he’s unable to go beyond 5 to 6 minutes. I fake orgasm all the time I am intimate with him and I am tired of feeling tired.
I got to know my husband flirts with this other lady on his phone. I haven’t confronted him because I have come to the conclusion that, maybe he needs to feel like he knows what’s up. I will be okay if another woman makes him feel like a champion in bed, while I also do my underground search for a compatible sex mate. Having good sex has greater effect on my happiness than a man’s income, so when I made the decision to find a secret partner, I wasn’t searching for a rich or handsome man. I needed a man with capa to compensate what I was getting at home.
The man I fortunately connected with is twice my age, a widower, and is a General Manager of a corporation. In all honesty, having sex with him makes me whole. We found each other and we liked what we saw in each other. He communicates with me with what I like and what we both do not like. Even the kind of sex we both are in the mood for is discussed. He asks me about sexual acts that are out of bounds between us, giving us a sense of permission to vocalize anything we both aren’t comfortable with. He talks about me reaching an orgasm with him, hours before we even meet for action. And I am able to orgasm on my own just by seeing him stare at my naked body for hours. He can stare at my nakedness in bed for hours without touching me, and Dave, the way his eyes feasts on my body alone makes me wet. There have been many times I have been with him at his home and we did not have penetrative sex. He would just stare at my nakedness and f**k me with words, just words ooo, Dave, words! I orgasm in rotation on those days. In fact, I cry.
I have never gone into sex with any man expecting orgasm to just happen to me. I have always put in the work, but with this man, a simple text of “Please come fuck me to sleep” makes me wet. We’ve been seeing each other for over a year, and I think I am in love with him. Dave, I have had a spare key to his house at Airport Residential area for over 9 months now. What does this mean to you? He’s never said ‘I love you’ to me before but he sends me GHs 3000 every month, for 9 months now, to take care of myself. I have a special account for that bonus money, and I keep it hidden from all my transactions, so my husband accidentally, does not see it. I have not told him I love him yet but I do. I love my husband, but this other guy’s great sex and attention and respect for me is clouding my judgement and feelings.”