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Deliberate faithfulness

Dear David Bondze-Mbir, I am smiling to myself because I am also sending you my story. I have been married for 16 years and all through the years, I have been faithful. I haven’t been always this decent. I used to know what was up. I lived it many times before meeting my…
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Under 5-minute men

Mr. David, good morning, I read a post from the man who says he can’t go beyond 2 minutes. I think my husband is between 4 to 5 minutes. It’s not only him because it just occurred to me that, the exes I had dated all couldn’t go beyond 5 to 6 minutes. I have dated an…
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Secret DNA

Dave, at what point does a man tell his wife to stop lying. I’m pissed right now; I can kill her if she opens up that mouth of hers again. Her excuse is she doesn’t know how it is possible for my son not to be my biological son. I did a secret DNA to confirm my…
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59 seconds erection

I am not able to have an erection anymore. They have given me injections since the accident. I have taken Viagra, even tried vacuum pump just to see if it could create that pumping sensation when it’s placed on my penis to create the blood flow needed for normal…
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For better, for worse

If a lot of us married men were to voice out our experiences in marriage, you would be in utter shock for the rest of your life. I applaud the man who was married to his late wife for 16 years. The reason why I still find it very difficult to share my story with you is that…
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Paid for sex

I lied to my husband and made him believe I hadn’t known a lot of men. He thinks he’s the 2nd or 3rd guy in my life because that’s the impression I created for him to fall in love with me. He loves good girls so I have to be one to fit his criteria. But the…
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Crawling

Hello David, this is the first time I have had to come out on this rather sensitive issue that robbed me of my confidence growing up. Today I’m still battling it but I’m also fighting very hard to go past it. Growing up, my dad used to be verbally abusive with my…
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Focus!

Sometimes, we men forget what’s important in life especially when we have been in a relationship for a long time. I always felt like my wife nagged too much about everything and wanted too much from me, that nothing I did was ever right. She used to complain about not…
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Pause!

Hello David, Please hide my identity. I am not ashamed of my story, but for the simple reason that I am yet to confront my mother and some siblings to aid my healing process. Talking about the business of stolen voices, this is mine. It was my mother who tore me down and…
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We Move On

“I asked my mother why she was staying in that marriage. She feared being alone. She feared being rejected by other men for being ‘too old’ or a mother of four. She was in her mid-40’s. She didn’t want to fail at parenting us by herself. So, I asked her, ‘If…
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Revelations 4 verse 2

“At that point, there was nothing I could do as their friend. I needed to wait for that moment she would come to terms with the fact that, her husband had made a choice, and it wasn’t her. I needed to wait for that moment she would make the hardest decision to let go…
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Something To Remember Me By

“I want to hurt my husband. Already, I have been feeding him with the excreta from my body. I mix my urine with water to boil his rice. I add my phlegm’s to his soup. I use part of my feces in preparing his stew. Curry always takes out the bad smell. He’s hurt me…
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She knows

Yours may be also busily cheating on you. Are you going to be in denial or face the reality of it? Because to ignore gives him the go-ahead to pursue it further. To pretend as if you do not care or see his deeds equally concurs to him getting away with it. When is ever the…
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Oye

She found herself in a position I doubt would have known what to do – if I were to be in her shoes. Do we take our relationships for granted sometimes, even if we kind of, don’t intend to? Because, she had a happy relationship and marriage, and a man, the ‘right’…
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Off-Scent

A week and some days ago, I met with one of the BEAUTIFUL human beings I have ever seen my entire life. She’s a 41 years old mother of two. Truthfully speaking, she did not look anything close to 18 years mpo. I saw the true definition of beauty. She made me appreciate the…
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For the long haul

Allowing the heart to fall in love can be the best decision ever made or the worst. The whole process of being vulnerable and feeling that much in need of someone’s fidelity can be scary sometimes. Especially after giving them your all, and then later finding out they…