Hello David, I am a silent follower. After reading why women lose themselves after marriage stories, I concluded most men are cowards.
Most men claim they want smart, confident, hardworking and straightforward women but once you agree to their proposal, they expect you to lower all that and serve them. Suddenly they see the woman to be arrogant, prideful and egoistic when things are not going as they imagined.
I am not married yet but dated five men and it’s only 1 out of the 5 who was not perturbed or threatened by my personality. Unfortunately, my parents disapproved of our relationship so we had to quit after fighting it for a year.
I will advise the ladies to always stand their grounds right from day one without being rude. Do not lower your standard. My current ex thought I am a pushover because I am a cool and collected person when he could not have his way with me. He called me heartless, senseless and bitter. This is a man I was helping improve his closed down business with my ideas. My friend advised me to stay because her mother receives daily insults from her father yet they are happily married. I told her I have never seen my parents have a misunderstanding to talk of insults.
Dave, I did my checks and realized this guy is a great womanizer and liar.
Everything he said and did from day one were lies. He has no idea I know. Most men are narcissists, manipulative etc.They only admire strong women but cannot handle them. They will do anything to break you down.
As a lady, set goals and standards for yourself. If you want to lower them, it should be for your children and not your partner or husband. You should know how you want your home to be. Some ladies just go with the flow which is very wrong. Do not let anyone push you into a relationship or marriage. Because same society, family and friends will judge you and even question you when you are no more.