I started documenting some unusual changes in my husband. The first for me was the lots of new styles and things he introduced in our sex life.
I do not mind adventure in sex but this sudden need to try these new things with me in the bedroom, things that were never our thing before got me alarmed.
I used to enjoy having unnecessary arguments with him and joke about things that weren’t really funny and laugh about them. I can’t get my husband to fight over our unnecessary arguments anymore. Our funny jokes are no longer funny to him. He has been working for longer hours lately and he is critical of the little things he would have overlooked in the past.
He picks on fights with me and that was not him. We do not communicate much lately, though he forces to be attentive than usual. I was feeling uncomfortable about the changes so I asked him if he was having an affair. He became so defensive and his response was unsatisfactory to me. I used to trust his word but it’s becoming difficult for me to believe him, so I had him followed.
I got the information of where he goes and visited the place one afternoon on a weekend when my source alerted me he was going there. I went to the house, a very big house. I talked to security and explained why I had to be there. I showed proof my husband was the man in there. I entered the main house and begged the housekeeper to allow me save my marriage.
Dave, it wasn’t an easy process convincing these people without implicating them and the security of their jobs. I was directed to the bedroom and my husband was having sex with the man’s wife while he watched. The woman’s husband was paying my husband to watch him sleep with his wife. I forgot to say this; my husband has been getting anything the children would request for them.
I realized he has been getting things for the house and even talking about getting our children private study in the COVID-19 pandemic. He is a hardworking man but I saw a change in his spending. He can afford lately. He used to be careful with money. But now he can really afford. We sometimes eat out and he buys me gifts.
He had been begging me to understand why he is doing what he is doing. His apology is not even about stopping what he is doing, but for me to understand that it is to secure our finances as a family. Dave, my husband is not unemployed. His legal job pays him over 4000 cedis. I earn 3500 cedis from my employers. We have two children. We do not lack Dave. We have a decent family and I liked it the way it was.
My husband is a wonderful man and I love him so much. What should I do? We have been married for 9 years.