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My husband and I never dated

When she felt it, she really felt it, like a drug. She fell in love with him, and it knew no depth. It has stayed with her, and she’s believing he stays with her too, forever. His happiness means more than her own. She dreams of all the ways she can take very good care of him, than of all the ways she’d want him to be caring for her.-DBM

#MyChatWithHer
 
WA: Hi David. Good evening. Can I also share my story? I am touched to do so, by all the stories I read here
 
David Bondze (DB): Hello! How are you doing?
 
WA: I am blessed, yourself?
 
DB: I am doing alright, thanks
 
WA: Great
 
DB: When are you free to chat?
 
WA: I am free now
 
DB: Okay! How long have you been married?
 
WA: Three (3) years as at August.
 
DB: I see. How did you two meet?
 
WA: We met at work. We were colleagues
 
DB: Ok!
 
WA: But he was above me
 
DB: Okay. What about him attracted him to you?
 
WA: He was tolerant, calm, soft-spoken and honest
 
DB: I see
 
WA: I was a customer service representative and he was at the risk and compliance department. Then he made an audit on me and presented it as it was, the good and the bad
 
DB: Interesting. Continue from there
 
WA: Haahaaahaaa. He is the type of gentleman who will tell you the truth no matter what. When you are wrong you are wrong.
 
DB: That’s good to know
 
WA: But at the same time, my partner in crime
 
DB: Ha!
 
WA: Yeah. He supports me all the way
 
DB: I see
 
WA: If only the path is right
 
DB: Ok
 
WA: When I met him, he had a very wrong information about me. Then he had to come and work at my branch for three months, which meant, he had to deal with me
 
DB: I see. When did you realize you were that much into him?
 
WA: Well, he got into me
 
DB: I see
 
WA: So this is how it happened. There came his first day at my office and he took a seat beside me to ask me questions he obviously, had answers to
 
DB: Smh!
 
WA: Then, me being in my element, I gave him a rude response
 
DB: Lol!
 
WA: He didn’t get angry but took his chair and left to his desk
 
DB: I see
 
WA: And that was the last time I’ve ever been rude to him
 
DB: That’s nice
 
WA: He became my friend and we went to lunch together. I got his lunch even when he had gone for meetings and was not in the office
 
DB: I see
 
WA: Until he spoke the charming word, ‘can I marry you?’
 
DB: Awwww! How did he propose?
 
WA: One evening after work, he asked me to meet him at Peter Pan, and he was like, ‘do you know how and what’s needed to marry someone from your tribe?’
 
DB: Hahahaha
 
WA: Then I asked him, ‘is your girlfriend from where I come from?’ He said, ‘just find out and let me know’.
 
DB: Lol!
 
WA: Then, in three days’ time, he brought me cash during working hours and said, ‘when you find out, buy cloths and suitcases with this, and any other thing you think the money there can buy’. At that point I was confused
 
DB: Weren’t you guys dating?
 
WA: No! My husband and I never dated. Later that day after work he said, ‘I want to marry you, and I am not taking a no for an answer.’ Mind you, I was in a rough relationship at the time and he was in one he was not sure of
 
DB: The major difference between your relationship to your partner and your relationship to everyone else in your life is SEX! Prior to his marriage proposal, were you two having sex?
 
WA: My husband never asked me for sex. And we never had one, until we got married
 
DB: Wow! I understand your confusion then – then
 
WA: We were together for only six months, and that was the time we were preparing for the marriage. At a point, we had to break up properly with our partners so we could be together without hurting anyone in the end. Mine wasn’t difficult but his, was hell.
 
DB: How does being married to your husband feel like?
 
WA: Oooh, awesome
 
DB: You think he loves you that much?
 
WA: If I start talking about my husband’s love for me, we won’t finish this chat
 
DB: Lol! And, you trust his love for you that much?
 
WA: Oh, Yes, with no hesitation. I know he loves me more than I do. He turned out to be the perfect partner I needed. He is my friend and partner in crime
 
DB: Most of the married men I have ever chatted, love their wives, but have ended up cheating on them, for a reason or not. How would you feel if he ever cheats on you?
 
WA: I don’t even think about the possibility but if it happens I know he will tell me
 
DB: Okay
 
WA: And if he does, I’ll forgive him
 
DB: I see. How is sex with your husband like?
 
WA: GOOD! I am the only woman he has and is ever having sex with
 
DB: That’s nice
 
WA: We talk sex and discuss our sex lives. He asks what I want and how I want it, and he does just that
 
DB: Awwww!
 
WA: We communicate a lot, in every aspect of our relationship. Because, that’s the only way we can understand each other
 
DB: True
 
WA: I tell my husband anything and everything
 
DB: I see
 
WA: And he does same, even when someone is crushing on me or on him
 
DB: Lol!
 
WA: We are open minded
 
DB: Say something sweet to your husband
 
WA: Haaahaahaa. My Joy, you know I love and appreciate you so much. You’ve been my pillars all these years and I never want to trade you for anything or anyone. I love you, my comfort.
 
DB: Awwww!
 
WA: Oh, and did I mention he allows me to sleep on Saturdays while he wakes to wash, clean and scrub?
 
DB: Such a gentleman
 
WA: In our three years of marriage, I can count the number of times I washed. Oh yes, he is such a gentleman.
 
DB: Awwww! That’s beautiful. Your marriage may be young, but it’s still an experience worth sharing. Encourage any woman reading this
 
WA: Hmmmmm. Marriage is not a class room or military where all you do is obey before you complain. Marry a friend, someone you can communicate with and be ready to forgive. Be honest and whatever happens, good or bad, let your partner hear it first from you. Learn the magic words of life: Please, Thank you, and I am Sorry – it will take you far
 
DB: I appreciate you for your time. Thank you very much
 
WA: You are so welcome
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