The day he felt that connection, attachment, and the sudden happiness with his wife, he knew he was in love with her, and that, had to make it work between them regardless. He was willing to meet her needs and outlooks of him. He was willing to love on her, and also, trust her. He’s accepted her for who she was and still is, and has been there for her since. His respect for his wife is what is ordering his steps in their marriage. -DBM
AB: Hi Dave, I would love to chat with you, regarding the 12 questions.
DB: Yay! Thank you. How are you doing?
AB: I am well, the sun this morning though! Killer!
AB: How are you too?
DB: I am doing alright, thanks. How old are you?
AB: 33 years.
DB: I see. Age mate. And, how did you meet your wife?
AB: Facebook oh, can you imagine! Lol.
AB: Well, my cousin was a friend of hers, and in trying to get her to join the FB bandwagon, she (cousin) opened an account for her, and sent me a friend request.
AB: We used to engage in small talk initially but I was in a relationship at the time so I didn’t give it any serious thought, till about, Two (2) years later, when I had just come out of that same relationship. I reconnected with her and we hit it off.
DB: What about her made her stand out and not blend in?
AB: Her intelligence and ability to tackle issues from a very practical point of view. For this reason I enjoyed her conversations paaaa.
DB: I see. At what point did you realize that – you were that much into her?
AB: Probably Six (6) months after we reconnected. I wasn’t even looking for a serious relationship then, but I was convinced I could spend the rest of my life with her
DB: How long did you date?
AB: 2 years.
DB: Was she the ONLY woman you were having sex with during the dating period, that is, if you two we intimately involved?
AB: Actually, I never had sex with her till we got married. That is to say, I was living a very promiscuous life when I reconnected with her, but I gave it all up the moment I decided it was her. So to sum it all up, I was not having sex with anybody during our dating period.
DB: That’s good information. How did you propose marriage?
AB: I asked her to let me know when I could bring my people to do the knocking, lol.
DB: Lol! Just like that?
AB: Yes oh, before that I had been throwing subtle hints that she was going to be my wife.
DB: Great! What was going through your mind, 4 days to your marriage/wedding ceremony?
AB: Hmmmm, plenty things oh, there was excitement, there was a bit of fear. But I kept telling myself, ‘be the best you can be, so much such that if it ever doesn’t work, the whole world will see that you did your best’.
AB: Oh… And all the guilt-free sex I was going to have too, lol.
DB: Hahahahaha! Very IMPORTANT. Sex ah VAT 3nda so dierr, 3y3 paaaaaa.
AB: You see that thing!
DB: Lol! Would she still be your choice of a wife in the next world?
AB: Oh yes.
DB: I see! Have you cheated on your wife before? If yes, why did you cheat? If no, do you see yourself cheating on her sooner or later – in your marriage?
AB: I have never cheated on her. I do look at other women though, but that’s where it ends. I don’t plan on ever cheating on her, so for now, I don’t see that happening. But for fear of the unknown, I continuously pray for strength and grace.
DB: That’s noble. When you wake up next to her early morning, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
AB: I am just thankful for her life. Oh, and I take time to admire her curves too.
DB: Hahahaha. That’s highly GODLY. If you had to compose your own new vows to her, what would you say?
AB: Hmmmm, I would dedicate, Cece Winan’s “I promise”. That song says it all:
I PROMISE (Lyrics)
I could tell by the way you smile
I could feel it in your touch
And I knew this heart of mine
This time would fall in love
All the hopes and promises given
And the pain that life can bring
Will build our will and commitment to face anything
I will love you faithfully, forever unconditionally
And my love I promise
Everything I have is yours
You’re everything I prayed and waited for
And my love I promise you
Now we begin our life today
And though we’ve only just begun
The quest until we’re old and gray is the vow to live as one
Through the desert winds that blow
I’ll walk you through the winters cold
I’ll be there to keep the fire alive
And when each passage we endure
We will stay strong, we can be sure
Our love survives
DB: I have that ‘PURIFIED’ 2005 Album. I have all of Cece’s collections. That is a BEAUTIFUL selection of a vow. Wow! Thank you so much for this chat.
AB: You are welcome sir, keep up the good work.
DB: I will.
AB: Have a lovely day then.
DB: Same to you