‘Love should come naturally to us. We should not love those we are in love with because someone expects of us to love them. True love should come from within. In fact, you should feel and know that the man or woman deserves your love and undivided attention at all cost. Love the love of your life irrespective of whether or not he or she is meeting your every expectation of them.’ – Bondze-Mbir D
“My wife is my greatest love story and I want to share it with you. First of all, let me describe myself from my wife’s eye. I asked her this morning to send me her reasons for loving me on WhatsApp:
Kweku, wo ye gentle, peaceful, kind, emphatic and understanding of me
Wo respect me and accepts me with all of my shortcomings
Wo value our marriage and relationship above all
Wo personality, values ne integrity ye strong; ena, you’re not afraid se wo be speaki up and represent it
Berma, wo ye bold
Wo ye guy wati
Mr. David, this is a woman mother thinks is ugly. My sister is ashamed of calling my wife her ‘in-law’ because she doesn’t think she’s in my class. The worst of it all was when my mother found out on our wedding day that, my wife is in reality, 7 years older than me. I did not know that until my mother told me. My wife lied about her age to me and to my parents. I was disappointed when my mother had to challenge me to tell the truth. Dave, I found out about the age difference in October, 2020. We’ve been married for 13 years. I was 33 when I met her. And though I have now been told the truth, she’s still my beautiful lady because she takes very good care of herself and the children.
She was depressed when I first saw her in her ex-husband’s car. They were driving to work, and you could clearly see she wasn’t happy. I didn’t know them but I felt very sorry for her. Instead of going to work, I followed their car till he dropped her at her job station. She recognized me from the traffic light, because we were staring at each other from our cars. When her husband sped off, I got out of mine to approach her. I didn’t have much to say. I introduced myself and handed to her my complimentary card. I remember the first question out of her mouth:
“Why are you following me?”
Truthfully, Dave, I didn’t know why I was following their car but I followed them. I wanted to be sure she was alright. I told her straight away, that I get the whole ‘For better, for worse … thing’ and could be available to her if she needed someone to talk to. Clearly, she wasn’t happy but the thing is, amidst everything she was dealing with, I was willing to relentlessly try to cheer her up. She took my card and looked at it; then shook her head, and smiled. I had achieved my goal. She could smile after all.
I did not hear from her for 17 months. I did not visit her at work at any time. I didn’t have her contact information. I wanted to give a woman a chance to choose me too. The day she called me, she was divorced and single. I found out later that her husband was making her feel useless because she couldn’t give him any children. When she called me, she had been divorced for two months. I went to see her family three months afterwards – to ask for her hand in marriage. Our friendship for three months was built on phone. My wife became my best friend after I married her.
I also found out she was a risk taker and has never quit on herself or me. In the bedroom, I have all these crazy ideas when it comes to sex. She gives me room to execute all of my crazy adventures with her, and has accepted the crazy person I can be around her. Would you believe me if I told you she makes me laugh, every day? I am a workaholic and have been afraid of ruining my marriage due to that. She gives me all the time to work on my projects at the office. She trusts me and I will never betray that trust.
I got to know about her past and she has experienced severe hurt and pain, betrayal and disappointment, yet is the most optimistic person about humanity that I know. She’s given me two adorable children. And, without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than I ever wanted to do for any human being. Maybe that’s why my family doesn’t like her. They don’t know her like I do. I have never come across anything very simple in a woman like my wife; so down to earth and good with her intentions. She’s done an amazing job at advancing her career path with three degrees and hard work.
She finds it funny when I tell her ‘I love you’, because she never really heard it in her first marriage. I know how quickly she can forget my love for her and the children. There is so much good in my wife Dave, so much good that I want to make all of her dreams come true. I worry about her because she doesn’t dream dreams. She’s a follower of your profile and I want her to read this message I am sending to her through you. I know she wants to do a PhD. And she’s contemplating on how to find a full scholarship. A project I completed just recently has put a huge sum of money in our bank account.
Mansa, dream dreams for me to help make every single one of them come true for you and the children.” – KAO