Mr Bondze Mbir, you are doing a great job with your Facebook that is why I want to share a segment of my love life with you. I have been following your account for 5 months and you have grown on me and my wife.
I come from a good family. I haven’t lacked anything because my parents are both well to do financially. My wife’s mother was our house help till my mother fired her due to my relationship with my wife. I am 10 years older than my wife. Our story is nothing complicated.
When she was 10 years, she used to come to our house with her mum to work. I took notice of her when she was 13 years. I was on vacation and was dealing with heartbreak. I had seen the woman I thought I was dating in the car of a married man, kissing. My wife had come to my room to sweep and I think she saw me crying.
She said something that made me want to look at her and share my dilemma. She calms me and told me to try to get over it. She also said she will become a medical doctor someday and she would love to marry a man like me in future. I was 23 and she was a kid. She told me to make new friends and date new women. When she was done cleaning, she offered to take me out on a date when she turned 29.
She envisaged being a doctor by then. We both laughed at her joke and became friends. I realized she was smart so I started paying her fees with my allowance from Dad. I was dating other women when I was doing all these. She won a scholarship to pursue medicine in Ukraine and returned to Ghana afterwards.
She took me out on a date at age 28, and though she was not the type of ladies I dated, I saw her in a way I hadn’t seen a woman before. My wife is proud of herself. She respects herself and respects me too.
She knows who she is and can articulate her every need, and would not seek my permission either or had to be someone else to be accepted by me. She did not expect me to read her mind. She was outspoken and resilient. I asked her to marry me on our first date. We have three kids and have been married for 9 years. There is no one on earth I would rather be around than her.
There is no one I would rather want to be talking to than with her. There is no one I would rather want to have sex with, than her. There is no one I would rather have a family with than her. They say men are not faithful, I wasn’t even sure of myself.
But my wife’s heart for me and our kids makes me want to be faithful every day. I found a good woman. She doesn’t have to be beautiful or sexy or hot.
The good in a woman is what you marry and keep for your own good. She has made me a better man. She is always covering my head and decisions with prayer.