Hi David, I need your opinion. My husband has been working abroad for the past 5 years. He visits Ghana twice a year. Our agreement before he left was that if he is able to settle in the first 2 years, he will come for me and the children. We have two lovely boys. Things worked out for him in 14 months and we planned to move the family as quickly as possible. Its 5 years, and I am still in Ghana with the children. He is now saying he wants our children to learn from their root. So we should talk relocation after they have finished Junior High School.
Our kids are 8 and 6 years. Someone who knows him told me she had seen him and different women in compromising positions. I have a picture as evidence. He denied it. My instinct told me he was having an affair. I confronted him and he denied it. He takes care of his children and their needs but David, is that enough? His mother volunteered to take care of the boys while I join him. He said no. I will inconvenience him. He is not struggling. He is paid well. He has a good job. He lives well. Why is a married man not in favor of bringing his wife along to where he lives?
This is why I am writing to you. In December 2019, I met a guy, he likes me and I like him too. My husband’s absence made my heart fonder. I am falling in love with this guy. He is a widower with a daughter. I want to start having sex on a daily basis and he is available to step in those shoes. He knows I am married. He knows the situation I find myself in. Is this considered cheating after doing everything to let my husband understand that I want more than 2 visits in a year?