“My husband recently, quit his full-time job. This decision is by far his worse in my opinion, but as his wife, he is expecting me to be supportive of it and also, believe in him. We discussed it but I was against him quitting. I wanted him to start it as a part-time business to see evaluate its rate before quitting on his full-time, paying job. He claimed the job was ‘eating up his life’. He was earning five-times what I earn. I don’t know who introduced him to the idea of startups because he’s all of a sudden interested in running his own business. He wants to be a cook. No doubt he prepares some of the best meals at home, but really, I did not sign up for this. He wants to launch a roadside take-away gig, and then grow it into a restaurant. My husband wants to cook and sell in a kiosk by the roadside. Is there no one on your platform to explain the rules of the whole entrepreneurship game to him? He’s going to burn through all of our savings with his stupid dream.” – Apprehensive C
Response from Alfred Selorm Betepe
“Good afternoon David,
Thanks for contacting me on this issue. Here is my small ‘pesewa’ thoughts on this issue.
1: I agree with the lady, that she doesn’t want the family to get into distress. Her idea was the best, ie: to test the waters and see how it would go before putting his entire legs in there. Ideally, the man should have started whiles he uses his salary to support the business – so it doesn’t affect the savings of the family.
- The harm has been caused. It is very important for her to believe in the husband, unless of course she doesn’t want to.
- I understand her stress that people will laugh at her that her husband quit his well-paying job to sell ‘beans and korkor’ in a kiosk by the road. Some of us survived the roadside and are doing well today. Friends laughed at us then, but today they laugh at the wrong side of their mouths. All I am saying is, their success doesn’t depend on what people say about them. She should be hopeful. There is always a rule to everything but in entrepreneurship, you don’t always follow the rules. It is ‘takashi’ out here.
- She should believe in the dream of the husband. There is never a stupid dream when it comes to entrepreneurship. It is either you take the risk and survive or fail. She should also understand that, failure is part of the learning process.
- If the woman herself has confirmed that her husband is a good cook, she should risk it and support him to hit the road running.
- She should note that even those already in business take decisions and it backfires, but life still goes on. The rules don’t always apply. She should sit the husband down again and talk this over with him. She should talk to him in a way that will let him know she is in this with him. She should get involved. It is not as smooth as entrepreneurs make it look. It is hell out here: the sacrifices you make as an entrepreneur is not on the surface. You sometimes have to look extra happy just to give hope to the people around you. It also affects the lives of the people around you without you knowing. You get stressed financially, you even get to cross roads and ask yourself did you go or come. You take up more responsibilities the moment you decide to own a business.
I will suggest at this stage she gets involved and be the cheer leader of her husband. I wish them all the best on this journey.”