“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.” ―
“My dad left the country when I was 9 years old. I had never set eyes on him until recently. Our mode of correspondence had always been through snail mail, and later, email. It was until recently, four years ago I think that I insisted on exchanging messages and calls with him on whatsapp. He travelled to the UK and has a UK phone number. He’s been sending us Western Union every month. My mother never married because the promise was, he would return to take us to the UK. My education has been fully funded by dad’s monthly stipends, and I am proud to say he’s been responsible in that aspect. His allowances by the month takes good care of my mother too.
I moved to Accra for my tertiary education, and now works with a good company. I was 28 years in July. Dave, here’s the shocker. I was widow shopping at Marina Mall and guess who I saw having lunch with his family? I managed to keep my distance from them till they moved. I followed them in my car to wherever was their last stop. I forgot to mention this, my father is legally married to my mother. I have their traditional and wedding pictures. We used to live in Kumasi, but now in Accra. My mother is staying with me. Because I wanted to be sure, I paid a dispatch rider to go to their area at 4 am, so he could follow my father to his workplace. I had to be sure it was indeed him. When I saw him at Marina, I sent him a message on his UK number and he read it but did not respond until later in the evening.
I got to know where he works and went to talk to a few people there, and was informed he’s been working there for the past 9 years. His name is the same name I know of my father. My mother still talks to him in the evenings and weekends. And he’s the one who calls on weekends. When he video calls to see us, he would be at a nice hotel room. Of course, I didn’t know all of that till I had him followed. I am totally heartbroken. Do I tell my mother first or I should be the one confronting him? He has three children, all grown.”