If a lot of us married men were to voice out our experiences in marriage, you would be in utter shock for the rest of your life. I applaud the man who was married to his late wife for 16 years.
The reason why I still find it very difficult to share my story with you is that, I don’t know how to write it. I have done 11 years of marriage.
I will be 43 years this year and my marriage to my wife has helped me learn and grow. I am naturally adapting and evolving, little by little because of what she brings out of me. She makes me want to be a good man.
In fact, I don’t know how else to explain my current situation, because if it were beauty, I have dated beautiful and pretty women than her. If it were intelligence Dave, I know better out there. If it were body contours, then she wouldn’t have been the one for me.
I love breast, I love backside-cushion and my wife isn’t any of that, just a simple plain girl and probably why I wasn’t hyped up by lust and hormones when we became friends. The day I realized she was on my mind, was the same day I knew I didn’t want to lose whatever we shared as friends.
With her, I didn’t have to force to be seen or liked. She didn’t have to show me so much love, good character and attention for me to notice her. There was no pressure on us to keep engaging each other before proving we cared. I was just as excited about our connection as she was with it and it was easy to trust her.
Even when I was fucking with other women during our friendship; I had to put a stop to it because I didn’t feel it was the right thing to be doing. Mr.David Bondze-Mbir, this was a period I had not even asked her to be my girlfriend. It was still in the friendship stages.
I was attracted to her, she wanted sex after marriage, but I wanted it before. She made the decision to give in though I knew she wasn’t happy about it. She got pregnant and I had to step up by making our relationship official.
You will not believe this, but the sex we had during our friendship stages and the first few months after married, was up to 32. Because she loved the count .she would count after every segment and document it in her diary. She would date it too. She wanted to know how many times we might have had sex on our 20th wedding anniversary.
The last time I had sex with my wife or any other woman was 2010. She was bedridden after the birth of our daughter. She developed this complication that has prevented us to have any sexual intercourse.
My wife has asked me to have an affair. She called in few ladies to sleep with me in our house. She paid women to book hotel rooms to sleep with me but I refuse them all. I married her for the better or worse, till death do us part. I intend to keep my side of the gig. I also want to be the most perfect version of me for her through these times because it could have been me.
I don’t want to disappoint the good in me. I don’t want to make her feel like she owes me sex. I promised to forsake all others for her sake. It’s not easy David, but I am able to be her husband through these times. Someday, I will share my full story with you