Fake Kiss

“It’s a beautiful thing falling in love with my wife. And I love my wife without needing her to love me back. I am being honest, I am not in love with my wife because she loves me. I am committed to her because she deserves to be loved. She gives me beautiful love in return but should she have not, I would still love her.” – L. A

#MyStory

“Dear Mr. David,

I am a big fan of what you do on Facebook. And anytime I read people’s stories on your wall, I am motivated to share mine. My story is not laced with milk and honey. It’s not that clean, cut and easy but it’s the fact to why my marriage is working, and why I am happy and excited to make my wife happy.

It was at a rehearsal of a play. I had been cast to replace the main lead actor who had fallen ill. The supporting actress already knew her lines and had been practicing it for weeks with the former lead. I only had the opportunity to learn my lines for just a day, and was still not conversant with my part. 28 minutes into the play, we had to act on a kissing scene. That was the moment I had my first eye-to-eye contact with my wife. We were supposed to ‘fake kiss’ according to the script and then move on to the next scene, but no…

I was feeling something. She was feeling something too. Something was ‘doing’ us from the inside. It felt so real, and emotional. I’d want to believe everyone saw the unexpected chemistry. It was passionate and very hot. It was awkward when it dawned on us that our tutors and course mates were witnesses to our act.   She turned me on in a way I liked, and that was the spark to something to look forward to. Dave, I was intrigued by the audaciousness of my wife when she whispered, “I like the way you kiss me” to my right ear. My kind of lady, adventurous. We kissed on stage again, and quickly made plans to see each other the following day. I was glad she found me cute. That evening, we talked about what we could hope for if we were an item. I wanted us to be an item. She wanted to date me too, and so it felt so easy and worthy. I knew I wanted to be with my wife in a long term relationship momentarily.

Now let me address my major concerns. You might have heard this before from the number of cheating men who send in their stories, but Dave, it is very true, I love my wife. I have a special connection with my wife, and I could equate this to the same connection I share with my mother. My mother is the true love of my life, however, I met another true love who makes me very happy, and so I fell in love with my wife. Does loving my wife more, and even being intimate with on the regular, stops or reduces my connection to my first love/mother? No! Faithfulness and love cannot and should not be put in the same bracket. They are not the same.

Every man will explore his options if he has the animal and basic instincts running through his veins. I applaud the men staying faithful to only their wives, of course, it’s doable. It takes special effort to not cheat. But Dave, this reality of a world that we live in is a whole jungle out there. E no bi joke. 11 years in marriage and I have cheated in 10 out of the years, and still hitting it hard out there. There are places in my body that I am hit with brand new feelings that I never knew was a part of me. My wife doesn’t bring out these very adoring feelings out of me. Stray girls do, and I tap on it as a man. I don’t sleep with just anything, and so, yes, I have self-control. I am in love with only one woman, and that’s my beautiful wife. I cheat on her with other women not to betray or hurt her. I do this purposely because I have to diligently mollify something very crucial that I doubt I am fully equipped to deal with.

Men shouldn’t be judged for being sexually involved with other people. It’s a beautiful thing falling in love with my wife. And I love my wife without needing her to love me back. Dave, I am being honest, I am not in love with my wife because she loves me. I am committed to her because she deserves to be loved. She gives me beautiful love in return but should she have not, I would still love her. I am obsessed with my wife. She’s my favorite chick. I am more giving and caring when it comes to her and the children. Nothing beats them to the good in me. I go out of my way all the time to make her life easier. My wife practically lights up when she sees me.

I am a real man yor!”