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Is she a lesbian?

Hello Dave, I found out my girlfriend of two years has a thing for tomboys. She got insanely close to a tomboy in her house and got increasing familiar .she follows bisexual ladies and lesbians on her social media. I suspected her and asked her if she…
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He was nobody's type

Mr. Dave, at what point does a woman stop forgiving her husband’s sins. Because I think I am tired, I am tired of being the one to make our marriage work. I am tired of trying to keep the home together. I am tired of trying because there are children involved, I…
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Too much power, too much control

Dear David We met at the market Saturday morning. How are you doing sir? I was about to send you a message and I realized you had already posted about our encounter. It was really nice meeting you personally and though I could see you were very busy shopping with your…
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WIll I find another man?

Hello David I have been hesitating to speak with you about this. My fiancé has cheated on me not sexually but emotionally accompanied with lies. My pastors have encouraged me to stay in the relationship and we decided to work it out. I, however, found out that, he still…
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Paid for sex

I lied to my husband and made him believe I hadn’t known a lot of men. He thinks he’s the 2nd or 3rd guy in my life because that’s the impression I created for him to fall in love with me. He loves good girls so I have to be one to fit his criteria. But the…
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Set for doom!

Dearest David, I have just realized from observation that some marriages are set for doom even before the couple says ‘I do’. Yet the women go in hoping to change the narrative. It is not wrong for them to hope but all that I learnt in my short life has taught me…
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Crawling

Hello David, this is the first time I have had to come out on this rather sensitive issue that robbed me of my confidence growing up. Today I’m still battling it but I’m also fighting very hard to go past it. Growing up, my dad used to be verbally abusive with my…
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Marriage scares me

Dave, I’m 31 and have never dated, never had a boyfriend. I read the messages some women send about the hell they go through in their marital homes and honestly I am afraid of dating or getting married. I wonder if there are any good guys around. I’m gainfully employed…
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Married to men who don't deserve us

Sometimes people think the stories are not true. I was a very outgoing free-spirited ambitious lady until I met my former husband years ago. Everything was a little ok even though I saw some of the signs before we got married. This man will go to the toilet and refuse to…
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Focus!

Sometimes, we men forget what’s important in life especially when we have been in a relationship for a long time. I always felt like my wife nagged too much about everything and wanted too much from me, that nothing I did was ever right. She used to complain about not…
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She's my show

People think I am a great man, successful but behind this greatness is my encouraging wife. Dave, we all go through problems and challenges but the weight is never the same when a young wife who loves you has watched you go through hell and endure the sight of you…
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Pause!

Hello David, Please hide my identity. I am not ashamed of my story, but for the simple reason that I am yet to confront my mother and some siblings to aid my healing process. Talking about the business of stolen voices, this is mine. It was my mother who tore me down and…
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My husband the MP

Hi Bondze, I have a question for all the men on your page. But before I ask the question, I’d want to introduce the reason to you. My husband is an MP and he is campaigning to retain his seat in parliament for no work done. I find it difficult to understand how he can go…
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Standards

Hello David, I am a silent follower. After reading why women lose themselves after marriage stories, I concluded most men are cowards. Most men claim they want smart, confident, hardworking and straightforward women but once you agree to their proposal, they…
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Live, Love, Learn

Hey David, Again kudos…this platform is truly amazing and an opportunity for wise men and women to learn from people’s experiences. Marriage isn’t an easy journey because people have different experiences, baggages and backgrounds which influence…
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Marriage called off

Hello Dave, this is the second time I’m writing to you. This is not to share my story or problem but to say thank you for starting this series on how some women have lost their voices in their marriage. It has been an eye-opener for me especially. I’m not married yet but…