“Whenever you wake to push-open your curtains in the mornings, you have a choice to make. And these choices may or not define us, be it major or minor. These choices we make affect change. Question now is, would ‘the future’ you be proud of ‘the present’ you – for doing whatever you’re about to do?” – Bondze
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“I was raised by a single mother and the circumstances in which we had to survive wasn’t an easy one. Dave, I grew up without my father around all the time. He had another life going on for him, and so the sole responsibility for all aspects of my day to day care rested on my mother. I witnessed first-hand the stress, burden and exhaustion she had to deal with in order for us to survive. She had me at the age of 23, and distanced herself from my father when I turned 3 years old.
Unfortunate, I also got pregnant at the age of 23 and delivered at 24. I didn’t mean to become a parent. I hadn’t planned for that life. My baby-daddy was a married man, and would not leave his family to be with us. When I met him, he told me he was separated and was moving on with his life. He wanted me to be a part of that life he was pursuing. We had that emotional connection, that kind of intimacy I had been dreaming of all my life.
He assured me he was single and searching but as it turned out at the end of my chapter with him, the other important thing in his life that ‘was coming between’ him and I was his original woman, who thought of him also as her soul mate – his wife. When it dawned on me that – him being with me wasn’t really about me, but rather his way out to diffusing the tension between himself and his wife, I ended the relationship.
My only daughter who is 23 years old, told me two nights ago that she’s pregnant. And the man responsible for the pregnancy is married. I really want to suggest abortion to break this cycle. She’s not in the position to mother a child, Dave. And I cannot imaging seeing this cycle repeat itself over the years. Am I suggesting the wrong alternative?”
If you don’t want the child then you can give it up NB for adoption. Better still,you can keep the child. When he or she is growing up,don’t feel shy to tell him/her the circumstances surrounding his/her birth. Had a child out of wedlock but the moment my girl got to the teenage years,i told her how I birthed her as a teen and added lots of advice. Whatever it is, wouldn’t be repeated ever.
Indeed! I agree
Please do not about the baby I know it’s very difficult now but if your mom was able to take care of you and you also taking care of her with your help and guidance she can also take care of her baby my mom was 18yrs and a student when I was conceived but now I am the best that ever happened to her life. It shall be well with you.
I personally suggest she abort it to end that cycle and also sit down with her to talk to her well.
Adoption is not an option becos that will mean the cycle will continue
Hmmm! Interesting
Whatever decision you take if it doesn’t involve God this cycle will be there. Abraham lies bout his wife years before Isaac was born but thanks to generational chains/cycles/curses Isaac told sane lie as his father did. See how it got to making Jacob a deceiver.
This isn’t a good thing yes but pray and break this. We all have some sort of ‘it’s in the family’ cycles that we need God in. Until you get Him involved to destroy whatever trend this is. Years later some grandchild or great grandchild will start same.
Shalom